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I Took My Power Back As A Widow

I could have let tragedy and death define my future. Instead, I let it fuel me to create my hero’s story.

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My Story

My life changed forever on October 14, 2021 when my late husband, Ryan, had a very rare and severe reaction to a bee sting leading to cardiac arrest and an anoxic brain injury.

For 5 months he was in a incapacitated state, in hospitals and rehabilitation, in the hopes of a recovery or a miracle. When it became clear that no meaningful recovery was possible, our family made the hardest decision of our lives to give Ryan his ultimate freedom, to put him on hospice and let him die surrounded by family. He died on April 7, 2022 at the age of 35. Our son, Jackson, was 4 years old at the time and our newest son, Leo, was 3 months old.

The day I became a widow, I had an overwhelming sense of responsibility to not only survive the loss of my husband, but to honor him by thriving in my grief. I vowed to myself that I would make the limited time I had on this earth magical, and special, just like Ryan had. I adopted rituals and everyday practices that helped me take back my power and joy I had lost during my husband’s ordeal and started to share the revelations in my grief journey with others–how I was able to actually grow and recreate through my grief, rather than lose myself in it. I received so many messages from other grievers who felt stuck in their grief and who wanted to be able to live joyfully and with peace while still integrating their deceased loved one in their life. I felt it was my calling to continue to share my grief journey and help those that felt overwhelmed and limited by their grief. 

My ultimate goal is to demonstrate that you get to decide how you want to write the next chapter in your life after loss. I want to show you that even in the deepest pit of despair and sadness there is a redemption story waiting for you. I know you may not see it right now, but believe me when I say, loving life again is possible and my purpose in this life is to help you find yourself again-your smile, your laugh, your intrinsic magic that is still inside you and I’m here to help you every step of the way. 

A Cross Between a Grief & Life Coach

An Expansive & Transformative Experience

My real life experience navigating the loss of my husband, as well as becoming a Certified Grief Educator provides a unique and powerful foundation to provide an expansive and transformative opportunity for those that are seeking to recreate themselves and grow through grief. 

Sickness and death and the grief and trauma that follows takes so much from you. 

It takes away your security, sense of self, joy for life, and motivation to move forward. But there is so much life to live after loss and I want to show you how to live vibrantly, joyfully, and with purpose even after losing your person.

It wasn’t enough for me to just write a memoir about my experience with grief and trauma as a way to have an impact on others.

I wanted to take it a step further and get a solid education and background on grief to help in a more effective and dynamic way. By becoming a Certified Grief Educator I provide value to you, the griever, in the following ways: 

  • Having an in-depth understanding of death, dying, trauma, and grief.  

  • Knowing your needs as someone who is grieving and how to help you remember your deceased loved one with more love than pain. 

  • Providing resources to combat the most common setbacks you may experience that follow a loss. 

  • Providing powerful and practical interventions to offer you hope if you’re entrenched in grief. 

  • Having in-depth knowledge of the strategies to help you if you are suffering from more challenging grief. 

  • The ability to provide transformative exercises to you as a grieving person. 

  • The ability to provide examples of self-care essentials that will fuel you and not deplete you. 

A Chance at a New Chapter 

If there is anything I have learned from my husband, Ryan’s, death is that life can be unpredictable and surprise you in both devastating and redemptive ways. After Ryan died I was given a chance at love again with my now fiance, Anthony, and we are getting married on January 11, 2025. Opening up my heart again after an unimaginable heartbreak has been one of the hardest but most beautiful experiences I have had in my life. I am so grateful to have been given a second opportunity to have an amazing partner to walk through life with and we are building a life together with Jackson and Leo that Ryan would be proud of. Love after loss doesn’t fill a void that can never be filled, but it has expanded my life in so many positive ways and I am so excited for a future together, which is a feeling I didn’t know was possible again after I lost Ryan. 

In the past almost 3 years since the medical event that took Ryan’s life, I have built a business from scratch and am now making an impact in the lives of grievers in a tangible way, I fell in love, moved, got engaged, and wrote two books (one that will be published in early 2025!). I will always miss the beautiful life I had with Ryan but I am fully planted in the new life that I had no choice but to grow into. Life is so fragile and short, I plan to continue to make the rest of my days here full of as much joy, light, peace, inspiration, and love as I can. My biggest hope is that my story gives you the evidence you need to believe that you are worthy of a beautiful life after your greatest heartbreak.

As someone who has experienced death first hand through the loss of my husband, I am able to provide you with tangible advice, tips, and real life knowledge to help you navigate through your grief in a intentional and empowering way:

  • How to approach dealing with practical situations that can be triggering, like going through your loved ones belongings or navigating holidays and significant anniversaries. 

  • How to protect your peace and set boundaries with others as a grieving person. 

  • How to recreate your identity when you lose someone. 

  • How to approach finding love after loss and dating when you have lost a spouse. 

  • How to help children who are grieving. 

  • How to navigate being a solo parent if you have lost a spouse. 

  • How to walk hand and hand with your grief, like an old friend so you can step into your magic and create a life you love even after losing your person.

  • Daily rituals and habits that will help you find more peace and comfort in your grief.

  • How to incorporate healthy eating and conscious movement into your daily life to help serve and fuel you through the grief process. 

  • How to manage conversations and actions by family members, friends, and strangers concerning death, loss, and grief so the process feels more authentic to you and these interactions become empowering rather than energy depleting. 

  • How to stop living life and grieving based on other people’s expectations of how they feel you should grieve, and forge your own authentic grief journey while learning and growing in the process.  

  • Action items to take to begin integrating your deceased loved one’s memory into your daily life. 

I’m here to guide you each step of the way so you can live your best life after loss.